If your only options are break or bend, learn how to bend.
We underestimate the reality of survival mode. We lightly glaze over the fact that when tragedy, trauma, and grief smacks us dead in the face, sometimes the only thing we can do is survive. If that’s you, I see you. I see that it’s taking every ounce of strength, energy, and will to just pull yourself halfway off the floor most days.
In your survival, don’t be afraid to change. Sometimes, change is the only way TO survive. Adapting to the new world, the new life, the new environment. If you find yourself becoming someone completely new, maybe even unrecognizable, it’s ok. Its not always a negative thing. In most cases, it’s actually for the best.
See, the good thing about survival is that it forces everything that isn’t necessary to fall away. You’ll learn how much you’ve carried that was never your burden to bear. And as those things fall away, you’ll make room for the new version of yourself. Possibly the version God has been trying to bring out of you for years.
Don’t resist the ebb and flow that comes in this season. Like a tree, firmly planted, let your roots stay deep in the things you know to be true (even in the most horrific of days, I guarantee you can find one truth to cling to, and if not, just reach out and I’ll help you). But let those branches bend and flow and shake with winds and trials as they violently storm through your days.
“That’s the thing about healing, you heal into someone else. A completely new person, not even because you want to, but because who you were you could no longer survive as. Let it go and let a new you happen.”
Learn to bend, not break.
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